Self and Self-Awareness

Self-Awareness and Dating - On Developing Self-Awareness and Being Self-Aware

Self-Awareness and Dating

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A recurring question my consulting clients ask me about dating is: “Why can’t I find anyone who is a good fit for me?” My response is often something along the lines of, “In what ways are you ready to find someone wonderful?” The idea in dating is to look at yourself and build self-awareness so that you’re as healthy as possible and ready to attract great people. Let’s look at a few dating conundrums and possible things you can do to move in a different direction:

1. I keep going out with bad boys/girls. Different direction: I get myself healthy enough to recognize that it’s OK to treat myself well and go out with positive people.

2. I feel lonely. Different direction: I actively work on things that resolve why I am lonely and emphasize learning about myself before dating.

3. Where can I meet people? Different direction: When you get yourself healthy and do the things you love you move in circles where you attract people who are like you.

4. All men/women are terrible. Different direction: There are a lot of great people out there we just need to learn to accept them into our lives and be healthy enough to encourage good people to go out with us.

Dating is ultimately what you make it because you have a lot of control over where it goes. When you’re aware of how your thinking and behaviors affect your dating approach you’ll be able to connect with amazing people rather than repeating the same patterns. What will you do to build your self-awareness and improve your dating life?

Cheers,

Guy

Self-Awareness and Healing Yourself - On Developing Self-Awareness and Being Self-Aware

Self-Awareness and Healing Yourself

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When people have an injury of some kind they immediately look for ways to heal it. This approach doesn’t apply the same way to psychological injuries, but self-awareness can help you gain insight into your emotions, thoughts, and behaviors, and help you move forward positively.

A huge number of people walk around with unresolved mental pain. One of the great benefits of building self-awareness is that it offers you the opportunity to take a careful look at yourself and identify the areas in your life that need healing. Take some time to think of questions like the following so you can live a healthy, fulfilling personal or professional life:

  • What unresolved issues do I have in my life that bring me pain?
  • What issues do I have that affect my ability to live an authentic life?
  • What issues might I change so I can be happier?
  • How do my hurts affect others?
  • How would my life be different if I healed my hurts?
  • What am I willing to do today to heal myself?

When you examine who you are and what makes you tick, you’ll discover amazing strengths as well as areas that need some care. Healing psychologically is not an easy process but it’s deeply rewarding because your pain won’t hold you back any longer. What will you do to develop self-awareness and begin to heal?

Cheers,

Guy

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How to Become Self-Aware

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People frequently ask me how to become self-aware. Here are five things you can do to start building your self-awareness:

  1. Make a list of all the things you do that lead in a positive direction.
  2. List the things that hold you back or lead in a less than positive direction.
  3. List the emotions you most commonly feel. Subdivide this list into the emotions you have an easy time feeling and those you have a difficult time feeling.
  4. Make a list of the things you really want to do in life, only list the things that are deep inside your heart, not the stuff you think you should do or others say you should do.
  5. Write about who you really are as a person, who the real you is and what dreams that person has.

The important thing to remember is that self-awareness doesn’t happen all at once, it’s a process that takes time and deliberate effort. Take the time to thoroughly think about and work through each of these five steps and don’t move on to the next one until you’ve finished the one before it. The areas that you have the most difficulty with are the ones that you will benefit from spending more time on. By completing these steps you will learn about yourself and start identifying who you really are and what you want to do with your life.

Cheers,

Guy

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Self-Awareness Helps You Build Self-Esteem

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People with strong self-awareness feel better about themselves. Self-esteem grows when you are doing things you love and taking steps toward your goals. Every time you complete an action or reach a goal you have a reason to feel great about yourself. The more small steps you take, the more opportunities you’ll have to feel great about who you are. The key is to keep working on things that are meaningful to you and don’t forget to celebrate as you go along.

Here are some things you’ll notice as you build your self-awareness and, by extension, your self-esteem:

  • You feel better about yourself.
  • You move past your fears.
  • You heal the damage inside you.
  • You learn to love yourself.
  • You’re able to list that things that are great about you.
  • You work on being the best version of you possible.
  • You don’t worry about what other people say, think, or do.
  • You follow your own path in life.

Cheers,

Guy

Self-Awareness and Your Dream Life - On Developing Self-Awareness and Being Self-Aware

Self-Awareness and Your Dream Life

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Self-awareness can help your dream life come true because, when you understand your emotions, thoughts, and behaviors, you’re able to formulate a plan and take action to make things happen.

Our dreams are a reflection of who we really are. I’m not talking about the dreams where you are riding a horse through the shopping mall, these are the dreams about what you really want to do with your life. These dreams come from a genuine place inside you and reflect your true self. Perhaps they link you to when you were a child and wished you would be an actor or when you graduated from high school and anticipated being a great mathematician.

Then life gets in the way, but it doesn’t have to be that way. You can literally use your self-awareness to tap into your dreams at any time and give them the prominent place in your life that they deserve. Ask yourself the following questions as you connect with what you really want to do with your life:

1. If money or subsistence were of no concern, what would I do with my life above all else?

2. What am I really good at that brings me joy and I could do forever?

3. What career path would bring me true joy in life?

4. What can I do for hours without thinking about time?

The answers to these questions will help you start steering your life toward what you really want to do. You call the shots and get to decide in what direction you move. You choose whether you follow the path toward your dreams or follow an alternate course. I wish you great success in your journey.

What will you do to develop self-awareness and live your dream life?

Cheers,

Guy

Self-Awareness and Self-Reflection - On Developing Self-Awareness and Being Self-Aware

Self-Awareness and Self-Reflection

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My consulting clients frequently ask me how to figure out other people. Oftentimes the key to our happiness does not rest on other people but within us. Self-awareness leads to self-reflection, which is a skill that benefits you by helping you understand your needs so that you can take care of them. It’s a great skill to learn because it helps you comprehend who you are and feel good about yourself.

Take a moment today to reflect on who you are as a person. You can start by taking an inventory of the achievements you are most proud of and those you wish you could improve. Ask yourself some questions like the following:

1. What am I most proud of?
2. What skills do I possess?
3. Where do I see myself in 6 months, 1 year, 5 years?
4. What are the challenges I face?
5. What will I do to overcome the challenges?

Thinking about yourself isn’t selfish, it’s self-aware and actually a great way to begin healing your wounds and building yourself up. Try beginning the process today and you will start to notice that it feels great to focus on yourself and your future.

What will you do to develop self-awareness and practice self-reflection?

Cheers,

Guy

It Takes Self-Awareness to Look at Yourself - On Developing Self-Awareness and Being Self-Aware

It Takes Self-Awareness to Look at Yourself

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There are many individuals who construct idealized versions of themselves to avoid having to look at how they really think and behave and the results they’re getting. It takes self-awareness to look at yourself, admit that something isn’t working and change direction. Here are some questions to ask yourself to stop fighting the facts and live based on what’s actually going on in your life and what you’re capable of doing:

  • What do I do in my life that causes me discomfort?
  • What can I do to let go of the things that cause me discomfort?
  • What would I change about myself to feel more comfortable?
  • What can I do to focus on my own behaviors rather than what other people do?
  • What patterns in my life would I change so I could be happier?
  • What am I willing to do to move in a positive direction?
  • What’s my plan for letting go of the thoughts and behaviors that don’t help me?
  • What will I do to be the same person privately and publicly?
  • What will I do to live authentically?

No amount of fighting the facts can change the reality of how you behave and the results you get in life. Take some time to answer questions like the ones I’ve suggested here and get to know yourself on a deeper level so you can live authentically and happily. Life is much more rewarding when you take a good look at yourself and follow your true path.

Cheers,

Guy

The Self-Awareness Guy