Self and Self-Awareness

Self-Awareness and Dating Good People - On Developing Self-Awareness and Being Self-Aware

Self-Awareness and Dating Good People

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When I consult for clients I often get questions about finding great men or women to date. People who lack self-awareness often find themselves dating the same general type of person over and over and getting the same results. The good news is that you don’t have to settle, you have an amazing ability to move your dating life in any direction you choose by following some basic steps. Here are a few examples:

1. Build up your self-awareness and find out who you are before you date. This will give you a better idea and more self-esteem to pick more healthy people to date.

2. Understand that people who date you should be supportive, kind, helpful, attentive and should always make you feel that who you are as a person is important.

3. Excitement doesn’t always equal a good person to date. Danger and mystery can be enticing but often turn into very large problems that hurt you.

4. Nobody you date, under any circumstance, should take away your self-esteem or put down your self-awareness.

5. You should never give up your identity to please or accommodate someone you’re dating.

6. You benefit from learning to live alone first and then incorporating someone else into your life. The healthier you are, the better choices you’ll make in the dating arena.

Try considering these points as you date people. Dating should be fun and it ideally lifts you up and makes you feel great. Take some time to think about who you are as a person and work hard on making yourself the best person possible. Remember that vibrant, healthy people see creeps coming down the road and steer clear.

What will you do to develop self-awareness and date good people?

Cheers,

Guy

Self-Awareness and Fixing Your Relationship Problems - On Developing Self-Awareness and Being Self-Aware

Self-Awareness and Fixing Your Relationship Problems

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A lot of people who lack self-awareness try to fix their relationship problems on their own rather seeking help. They may ask for advice from friends or family but with limited success because people can only offer help based on what they know and, even if they mean well, they usually don’t really know how to fix a relationship problem. Most people end up not asking for help at all because they think their only options are to take care of things themselves or get bad advice from others.

The good news is that there are resources available to you to fix relationship problems. The stigma associated with looking for outside help is going away and people are more open to getting help from an impartial, outside person. The benefit of getting outside help is that the person does not have any interest in the outcome other than helping you find solutions that work for you. Therapy is an excellent way to work out issues but there are also alternatives such as coaching when you don’t require mental health related services. I always recommend that if people have a mental health issue they benefit from seeing mental health professionals. For issues related to our functioning in relationships a coach can often be helpful.

When I consult for people we don’t go into mental health issues or dwell in the past. It is not because these things aren’t important but rather because self-awareness consulting deals with the here and now and what you can do to improve it in the future. I literally help you change the way you do things now and do them in a way that works for you. You make all the decisions with guidance and support.

I work with people to help them figure out a new way of doing things. Self-awareness consulting is helpful for people who just need a supportive outside person who can motivate them to move in the direction they choose. It’s like having a friend listen to you who is actually qualified to help you resolve your problems.

If you have been looking for a way to deal with relationship issues or problems perhaps coaching is a good option for you. A self-awareness consultant helps you get what you want out of your relationships by clearing away that obstacles and helping you design your new path to happiness. Feel free to contact me at the link below if you have any questions about how my consulting can help you transform your relationships.

What will you do to develop self-awareness and fix your relationship problems?

Cheers,

Guy

Self-Awareness Is about You - On Developing Self-Awareness and Being Self-Aware

Self-Awareness Is about You

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It’s hard to experience self-awareness if you decide you don’t want to work on it. You have a lot of power to decide what you’re willing to do. You can move forward confidently or you can put up obstacles. The only person who chooses whether you grow and succeed is you.

Take some time to think of the areas in your life you’d like to improve and what would make you feel happy and balanced. Then it’s up to you to determine where you want to start and what you’re willing to do. The key in self-awareness is to live authentically and take action on the things that will help you live a genuine life.

Cheers,

Guy

 

Why Is Self-Awareness Important? - On Developing Self-Awareness and Being Self-Aware

Why Is Self-Awareness Important?

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Why is self-awareness important? Here are some lovely reasons:

  • You get to live life as yourself.
  • You can pursue your dreams.
  • You honor yourself every day.
  • You look within for answers.
  • You live a more fulfilling life.
  • You are in touch with your emotions, thoughts, and behaviors.
  • You understand why you do stuff.
  • You enjoy positive relationships.
  • You’re able to move in a positive direction.
  • You live consciously instead of reacting to everything that comes your way.
  • You understand your strengths and areas for improvement.
  • You’re constantly growing.
  • You treat yourself and others well.
  • You genuinely like yourself.

Self-awareness is of vital importance because it’s like the difference between being able to breathe or not. When you possess self-awareness you can enjoy who you are and live a deeply rewarding life. What would you add to this list?

Cheers,

Guy

Self-Aware People Learn from Conflict - On Developing Self-Awareness and Being Self-Aware

Self-Aware People Learn from Conflict

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Self-aware people learn from conflict because they understand their and others’ emotions, thoughts, and behaviors, and how each party can contribute to making matters worse or better.

Some people love conflict and some run screaming from it. Yet conflict can signal that something very important is happening and that we need to pay attention. Conflict is also a great opportunity to build self-awareness and learn about each other to fix things for the better. Try these tips the next time you have and issue with someone:

1. Name the problem (what is it).
2. Each of you describe how you see the problem.
3. Come up with a few ways to fix the problem.
4. Agree and choose one solution.
5. Get an outside person involved if you can’t decide on a solution.

I’ve found that if two people just sit down and agree to talk (respectfully and without shouting) they can resolve even the most complex problem. It’s wonderful to see two people come to an agreement and figure out a way to resolve a nagging issue. It’s almost like a weight has been lifted off their back.

What will you do to develop self-awareness and learn from conflict?

Cheers,

Guy

Self-Awareness and Taking Action Go Hand in Hand - On Developing Self-Awareness and Being Self-Aware

Self-Awareness and Taking Action Go Hand in Hand

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Self-awareness and taking action go hand in hand because, when you understand your emotions, thoughts, and behaviors, you are in a great position to do things to move your life forward consciously and positively.

The only difference between those who succeed and those who stay stuck is taking action. I’m always amazed at the incredible things people can do when they decide to act to make their dreams a reality. Here’s what some smart people say about the subject:

Annie Dillard:

How we spend our days is, of course, how we spend our lives.

Aristotle:

Moral excellence comes about as a result of habit. We become just by doing just acts, temperate by doing temperate acts, brave by doing brave acts.

Alfred Adler:

Trust only movement. Life happens at the level of events, not of words. Trust movement.

Anatole France:

To accomplish great things, we must not only act, but also dream; not only plan, but also believe.

Ann Radcliffe:

One act of beneficence, one act of real usefulness, is worth all the abstract sentiment in the world.

Go out today and take action to make your dreams a reality, you’ll be glad you did. Remember that you don’t have to do everything at once, just do one small thing each day and, over time, you’ll see the results in your life. What will you do to develop self-awareness and take action?

Cheers,

Guy

Self-Awareness and Believing In Yourself - On Developing Self-Awareness and Being Self-Aware

Self-Awareness and Believing In Yourself

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One of the most important elements of self-awareness is believing in yourself. That means that you take action because you deeply value who you are and want to improve the quality of your life. It requires that you appreciate your innate ideas, talents and gifts and have the confidence to share them with the world.

Having confidence in yourself doesn’t happen overnight, it requires taking action over time so you can eventually get to the point where you truly love yourself. Thankfully, anyone can embark on this journey and build up their confidence, all it takes is doing things like:

  • Healing the hurts from your past.
  • Doing one small thing each day to move in the direction of your dreams.
  • Saying positive things to yourself.
  • Treating yourself well.
  • Following your own inner voice.
  • Continue increasing your self-awareness.

When you believe in yourself, you are willing to do things to improve your life and take care of yourself. It allows you to move in any direction you wish and follow your inner voice.

What will you do to develop self-awareness and believe in yourself?

Cheers,

Guy

The Self-Awareness Guy