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Dating Tips and Self-Awareness

March 26, 2024 / The Self-Awareness Guy / Self and Self-Awareness, Self-Awareness / A Self-Awareness, Examples of Self-Awareness, Personal Awareness, What Is Self-Awareness, Work Environment and Self-Awareness

I’ve noticed that when people ask me for relationship advice a recurring questions is, “Why can’t I find anyone.” There are many ways people arrive at this conclusion. I’ll list them and put a self-awareness twist on each. In this way you can move in a different direction and find out how much power you really have to affect your dating life.

1. I keep going out with bad boys/girls. Different direction: I get myself healthy enough to recognize that it’s OK to treat myself well and go out with positive people.

2. I feel lonely. Different direction: I actively work on things that resolve why I am lonely and emphasize learning about myself before dating.

3. Where can I meet people? Different direction: When you get yourself healthy and do the things you love you move in circles where you attract people who are like you.

4. All men/women are terrible. Different direction: There are a lot of great people out there we just need to learn to accept them into our lives and be healthy enough to encourage good people to go out with us.

Hope these ideas help navigate the dating waters. Dating is ultimately what you make it; you have a lot of control over where it goes.

Cheers,

Guy

Self-Awareness and Being Kind to Yourself

March 16, 2024 / The Self-Awareness Guy / Self and Self-Awareness, Self-Awareness, Self-Consciousness / A Self-Awareness, Personal Awareness, Self-Aware

People are frequently quite hard on themselves and are constantly concerned about how well they are doing things. The key in life is to develop your self-awareness so you can truly understand your strengths and areas for improvement instead of just berating yourself over everything. Try this three-step process every day to start being kind with yourself.

1. Praise yourself for something you did today.
2. Do something positive that you enjoy.
3. Repeat every day.

Getting in the habit of doing these simple things can feel different at first but, over time, it leads to us doing things that make us feel good. It’s great when we can rely on ourselves rather than others to make us feel good. As you build your self-awareness you will begin to understand how to channel your emotions, thoughts, and behavior in a positive direction.

Next time you feel completely stressed out and about to explode, take a moment and try these steps instead of being hard on yourself. You are an amazing human being who deserves caring and affection. What will you do to be more self-aware and kind to yourself?

Cheers,

Guy

Self-Awareness Means Looking at the Difficult Things in Life

March 6, 2024 / The Self-Awareness Guy / Self and Self-Awareness, Self-Awareness / A Self-Awareness, Define Self-Awareness, Examples of Self-Awareness, Personal Awareness, Self-Aware, Self-Awareness Meaning, Self-Knowledge, What Is Self-Awareness

A lot of times self-awareness is about looking at the difficult things in your life. These are the areas that perhaps you don’t want to bring up or examine. The challenge is to find a way to deal with the difficult issues in your life so you can move past them and live without their influence. It’s like finally healing a wound that’s been hurting for a long time.

The vast majority of people live their entire lives without resolving the pain from their past. This limits their ability to grow and succeed. Think of how amazing your life would be if you became self-aware to the point that you genuinely loved yourself and were able to live as the real you. Too many people get stuck living a life that they settle for instead of doing the hard work necessary to live a conscious, fulfilling life. Self-awareness requires effort but it allows you to let go of all the junk that holds you back.

If you’re afraid of looking at the difficult things in life, that’s normal. The choice you have is whether you decide to move past those things or you let them dictate what you should do. Self-aware people choose to deal with the challenges so they can live wonderfully healthy and expansive lives.

Cheers,

Guy

Characteristics of Someone with Self-Awareness

March 6, 2024 / The Self-Awareness Guy / Self and Self-Awareness, Self-Consciousness / A Self-Awareness, Awareness Meaning, Examples of Self-Awareness, Personal Awareness, Self-Aware

People frequently ask me to describe the characteristics of someone with self-awareness, here are some examples:

They’re in touch with their emotions and are comfortable with them, even when they’re unpleasant or difficult.
They’re comfortable with other people’s emotions.
Their thinking matches objective reality; they don’t make up scenarios that aren’t based on demonstrable fact.
They’re able to manage their thinking patterns and move even their most difficult thoughts in a positive direction.
Their actions lead in a positive direction for them and for others.
They deeply understand their strengths as well as their areas for improvement.
They’re always working on becoming the best version of themselves possible.
They work hard to heal their inner hurts, preferably by going to a professional therapist.
They’re genuinely happy with who they are deep inside.
They follow their dreams.
They live as themselves.
They’re open to new people, ideas, challenges and changes.
They relate well to others and build positive relationships.
They treat themselves and others with kindness and compassion.
They make the world a better place because they’re so comfortable with themselves that they’re able to freely help others.

Imagine your life if you possessed any number of these qualities. The wonderful thing is you can achieve them all if you choose to actively develop your self-awareness.

Cheers,

Guy

Self-Awareness Can Help You Change Your Life

February 15, 2024 / The Self-Awareness Guy / Self and Self-Awareness, Self-Consciousness / A Self-Awareness, Examples of Self-Awareness, Personal Awareness

People often ask me how to change their lives. The answer is to build up your self-awareness, which enables you to heal the hurts from your past and focus on positive emotions, thoughts, and behaviors to move forward. Changing your life requires deliberate action over time, there are no quick fixes.

The next time you are wondering how to change your life, try using the following steps to transform your situation.

1. Think of what you want to change.
2. Devise a strategy to change it.
3. Pick one goal.
3. Pick one task you can do to start achieving your goal.
4. Check in with yourself in a week to see if you achieved the goal.
5. If the goal needs revising, do so. If you’ve completed it, move to the next goal.
6. Reward yourself each time you complete a goal. No overindulging please.

It’s one thing to want to change your life, it’s quite another to actually do it. It requires a plan and conscious action over time. Put one foot in front of the other and strive to complete your goals. It’s normal to feel like giving up, just keep taking one small step at a time. You’ll eventually see the results.

No life change is easy. They all take deliberate effort but people achieve their goals all the time. There is no reason why you shouldn’t be able to do so as well. What will you do to develop your self-awareness and change your life?

Cheers,

Guy

Self-Awareness and the Secret to Effective Communication

February 5, 2024 / The Self-Awareness Guy / Self and Self-Awareness, Self-Awareness / A Self-Awareness, Examples of Self-Awareness, Leadership Self-Awareness, Personal Awareness, Self-Knowledge / 2 Comments

People often ask me what’s the secret to effective communication. There really are no hidden mysteries, it just requires having the self-awareness to communicate with people in a way that makes things easier for everyone in the workplace. Try these ideas and you’ll be on your way to communicating more effectively and getting more done with less effort.

Build up your self-awareness so you understand how your emotions, thoughts, and communication style affects you and others.
Think before you talk.
Speak calmly or don’t speak at all.
Listen more than you talk.
Try not to react to what the other person is saying.
Ask open-ended questions.

How many of these concepts do you practice on a regular basis? Once you master these skills you’ll be on your way to enjoying communicating with others. Effective communication is achievable, you just have to be conscious of what you’re doing to make it happen. What will you do to increase your self-awareness and communicate effectively?

Cheers,

Guy

How to Develop Self-Awareness: A 10-Step Plan

January 16, 2024 / The Self-Awareness Guy / Self and Self-Awareness, Self-Awareness / A Self-Awareness, Define Self-Awareness, Examples of Self-Awareness, Personal Awareness, Self-Awareness Meaning, What Is Self-Awareness

Here is a ten-step plan on how to develop self-awareness:

Decide that you’re willing to look deep inside yourself. Don’t start this process if you’re not committed to being fully honest and working hard on developing self-awareness.
Make a list of all the great things about you.
Make a list of the things you feel, think, or do that are detrimental to your well-being.
Make a list of all the things you’d like to improve.
Pick one item from your list of things you’d like to improve and decide on one action you’re willing to take to work on it.
Take action and then evaluate what benefit it had on the thing you’d like to improve. If it worked, move on to the next thing you’d like to improve; if it didn’t, choose another action.
Once you have found the appropriate action to resolve the issue, start the process again. It’s important to do this because your lists will change whenever you change in some way.
Keep working continuously, one item at a time. Don’t overload yourself by trying to do several things at once. Choose one thing and work on it deliberately.
Whenever you resolve an issue in your life, celebrate and praise yourself for the great work you’ve done.
Continue to identify and resolve issues throughout your life.

Developing self-awareness doesn’t happen overnight, it requires sustained attention and effort over time. Try this ten-step process and, as you do it, you’ll be gaining insights into yourself and living a healthier, more balanced life.

Cheers,

Guy