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Self-Aware People Know What Emotional Intelligence Is - Change Your Life through Self-Awareness

Self-Aware People Know What Emotional Intelligence Is

What is emotional intelligence? You know that feeling you get inside when you encounter an emotion and you’re able to experience it fully without falling apart? That’s what it is. Self-aware people know what emotional intelligence is because they are in touch with what’s going on inside themselves and how it affects what they do each day.

You are a human being that has emotions. In an ideal world, you would deal with or manage your emotions so that they always lead in a positive direction, but that doesn’t always happen because you likely haven’t been taught what to do when you or others feel things that are scary or uncomfortable.

You were raised in a certain way and move in circles that tell you what role emotions should have on your life. The problem is that the information you get about how to feel things may be fatally flawed.

Emotional intelligence is the ability to identify and effectively deal with or manage your emotions when they arise, and do the same for others. It means you’re an emotionally stable person who isn’t afraid of feeling things or interacting with people when they’re experiencing their own emotions.

As you continue your journey through life you’ll find that it will benefit you greatly to learn how to manage your emotions in a positive way. What will you do to develop self-awareness and emotional intelligence?

Cheers,

Guy

Self-Awareness and Developing Emotional Intelligence - Change Your Life through Self-Awareness

Self-Awareness and Developing Emotional Intelligence

Self-awareness is key to developing emotional intelligence because, when you understand yourself and others well, you are better able to deal with any internal or external emotion.

The process of developing emotional intelligence is not as mysterious or scary as you might have been led to believe. The vast majority of human beings have the capacity to feel emotions and use them to improve their lives.

Being able to effectively deal with and manage your emotions will help you feel happier and more balanced, solve problems, get along with others, and improve your quality of life.

Here are some ideas to help you develop your self-awareness and emotional intelligence:

  • Realize that emotions are a normal part of life and that even the uncomfortable ones can benefit you.
  • Understand that emotions aren’t positive or negative, they are all potentially beneficial.
  • Learn to identify and name the emotion you are feeling inside at any particular moment.
  • Do something that is positive with the emotion. For example: If you feel sad about something, you can use those feelings to learn and grow and take action in way that will be beneficial to you and others.
  • Keep practicing feeling your emotions and using them in a positive way until you feel comfortable with any emotion that arises.
  • Once you are comfortable with your own emotions, start applying these ideas to other people’s: Identify and empathize what what they’re feeling and be there for them to take positive action.

Developing emotional intelligence is the process of learning to identify and feel your emotions, use them positively, and relate to other people’s emotions as well. The idea is to be able to feel what’s going on inside you and use it to improve your life, and doing the same thing with other people’s emotions.

What will you do to increase your self-awareness and emotional intelligence?

Cheers,

Guy

Insecure People Lack Self-Awareness - Change Your Life through Self-Awareness

Insecure People Lack Self-Awareness

Insecure people lack self-awareness and are often afraid of other human beings, new situations, and different ideas. Self-aware individuals are comfortable with diversity and change and are able to get along with a wide range of people.

Insecurity chips away at our self-esteem and keeps us stuck feeling poorly about ourselves. It can even affect our relationships because it inserts and unhealthy element into the relationship. Insecurity can be defined as when someone feels that they are not worthwhile. People feel insecure when they are scared, feel threatened or feel like they are not important.

Some people withdraw when they are insecure, others lash out. Regardless of how we behave, insecurity is about having a how we feel about ourselves. So what can we do to feel better about ourselves? Think of the following ideas to increase your self-awareness and self confidence, and reduce your insecurity:

Characteristics of Secure People

Aren’t threatened by others.
Listen well and don’t require attention by talking.
Don’t require attention all the time.
Are comfortable with other people’s success.
Don’t feel they have to win.
Don’t put other people down to make themselves feel better.

Characteristics of Insecure People
Threatened by others.
Talk a lot to get attention.
Need to be the center of attention.
Jealous of others’ success.
Competitive, always need to win.
Put people down to feel better.

Think of yourself, where do you fall on these two extremes? If you see yourself on the insecure side, don’t worry, all you have to do is increase some of the positive traits. Even very insecure people can feel better about themselves by doing things that allow them to build self-awareness and experience their own success.

I suggest to my clients that they find out something they like to do and pursue it. Learn from the successes and challenges in life and you will learn how to feel great about yourself. Feeling secure takes some practice but the rewards are amazing.

What will you do to develop self-awareness and feel less insecure?

Cheers,

Guy

Self-Awareness and the Record of Your Actions - Change Your Life through Self-Awareness

Self-Awareness and the Record of Your Actions

An important part of self-awareness is understanding how your behaviors affect not only you, but others as well. As you go through life, you create a record of your actions:

  • The way you treat yourself and others.
  • Whether you live authentically or not.
  • Whether you heal your hurts or run from them.
  • Whether you follow your true path in life.
  • The beneficial vibes you spread.
  • The good deeds you do.
  • The quality of your relationships.
  • Your inner health.
  • The depth of your understanding of yourself.
  • Your level of kindness, compassion and balance.

Each one of your actions reflects who you are at that particular moment. The pattern you establish throughout your life becomes the verifiable record of whom you chose to be. It’s up to you to consciously decide how you behave in life and whether you leave a positive imprint on the world around you. What will your actions say about you?

Cheers,

Guy

18 Emotional Intelligence Examples That Self-Aware People Recognize - Change Your Life through Self-Awareness

18 Emotional Intelligence Examples That Self-Aware People Recognize

Self-aware people practice emotional intelligence because they have the ability to experience, manage, and use their feelings to take positive action, including in social settings. They also are able to identify and positively deal with other people’s feelings, perspectives, and ways of doing things.

Here are some emotional intelligence examples that self-aware people will recognize:

  1. A person who is not threatened by emotions and doesn’t run away from or try to avoid them.
  2. A boss who is in touch with emotions and is able to use them to be a kind person at work and treat employees with care and compassion.
  3. A person who makes positive decisions regardless of the emotion they are feeling inside.
  4. A boss who is comfortable dealing with employees’ and co-workers’ emotions and is able to listen to them regardless of the situation.
  5. A man who is able to identify and manage his anger so that it helps him learn, grow, and treat himself and his family better.
  6. A man who is able to identify and manage his sadness so it doesn’t affect him and others negatively and helps him learn more about himself and move in a positive direction.
  7. A teacher who understands students’ emotions and provides support and comfort.
  8. A person in a leadership position who is comfortable with emotions and avoids doing things to hurt others.
  9. A father who encourages his son to experience emotions without getting in the way or trying to stifle certain ones.
  10. Any person who is able to identify and name the emotion being experienced and use it to do positive things.
  11. An individual who is able to be there for someone else when the other person is experiencing an emotion.
  12. A person who doesn’t let negative emotions affect how they treat others.
  13. An individual who doesn’t live in fear, sadness, or anger because they have learned how to identify, feel, and deal with emotions.
  14. A person who has worked through a difficult emotional history and emerged stronger and healthier.
  15. An individual who understands that emotions are normal.
  16. A person who uses emotions to live a balanced, happy life.
  17. An individual who feels good inside and knows what to do when negative emotions arise.
  18. A person who gets along well with others.

The key to being emotionally intelligent is to build self-awareness by consciously identifying what you’re feeling deep inside and then using the emotion in a positive way, whether it’s to learn or do something beneficial.

Practicing emotional intelligence takes time and effort but, when you do it, you’ll live a much happier life. What will you do to develop self-awareness and emotional intelligence?

Cheers,

Guy

Self-Aware People Know How to Be Emotionally Intelligent - Change Your Life through Self-Awareness

Self-Aware People Know How to Be Emotionally Intelligent

People who lack self-awareness aren’t emotionally intelligent because they’re not willing or able to look deep inside themselves and keep working on being in touch with who they are and feeling things openly and constructively.

Increasing self-awareness and developing emotional intelligence doesn’t just happen, it takes a lot of deliberate effort. If you’re like the vast majority of people, you were raised or currently function in an environment that actively distorts, discourages, ignores, fears, or mocks emotions. That leaves you with less than ideal tools to deal with your own and other people’s emotions.

There’s a lot of drama going on but nobody knows how to make things better. Luckily, there’s something you can do about it. Here are some practical ideas on how to be emotionally intelligent:

  • Learn to name the four main emotions: happiness, anger, sadness, and fear.
  • Learn how to accurately identify these feelings when they are going on inside you.
  • Learn how to deal with or manage the emotions you’re feeling in a positive way.
  • Learn how to name the emotions other people are having and deal with or manage them in a positive way.
  • Learn how to use your emotions to live a happy, balanced life.

So, how do you learn these things? You practice them. For example: The next time you feel angry about something, stop and take five deep breaths, then take five minutes to simply feel what’s going on inside your body; don’t react or take action in any way, just feel what’s going on inside. Do this each time you feel the anger. Over time, you’ll become adept at feeling the emotion instead of reacting unconsciously to it. Once you’ve learned how to experience the emotion without falling apart, you can move on to taking action in a positive way.

The key to being emotionally intelligent is to be able to feel what’s going on inside you and use it positively, as well as being comfortable with other people’s emotions. When you possess emotional intelligence, you’re no longer simply reacting to what’s going on within and around you, you’re deliberately and wisely dealing with and managing the situation.

What will you do to increase your self-awareness and be emotionally intelligent?

Cheers,

Guy

Self-Awareness and Deciding What You Want to Do in Life - Change Your Life through Self-Awareness

Self-Awareness and Deciding What You Want to Do in Life

Self-awareness is a vital element of deciding what you want to do in life because, when you know yourself well deep inside, you’re able to use your emotions, thoughts, and actions to move in the direction of your dreams.

Many of us are searching for what we want to do with our lives. I frequently recommend to my clients that they do things that bring them joy and that really speak to who they are as a person. A quick checklist you can use to figure out if you are doing what you love could include:

  • What do I love doing more than anything? Am I doing it?
  • What am I doing to pursue my dreams?
  • Am I settling for a life that does not include my dreams?
  • What am I afraid of?
  • What can I do today to move toward my dreams?

Moving one’s life in the direction we want it to go in requires conscious thought. The good news is that anyone can do concrete things to move in any direction they want. Start today and you could be on your way to doing the things you’ve dreamed of.

What will you do to develop self-awareness and follow the path you want to in life?

Cheers,

Guy

The Self-Awareness Guy