Self-Awareness

Self-aware people practice emotional intelligence because they have the ability to experience, manage, and use their feelings to take positive action, including in social settings. They also are able to identify and positively deal with other people’s feelings, perspectives, and ways of doing things.

Here are some emotional intelligence examples that self-aware people will recognize:

1. A person who is not threatened by emotions and doesn’t run away from or try to avoid them.
2. A boss who is in touch with emotions and is able to use them to be a kind person at work and treat employees with care and compassion.
3. A person who makes positive decisions regardless of the emotion they are feeling inside.
4. A boss who is comfortable dealing with employees’ and co-workers’ emotions and is able to listen to them regardless of the situation.
5. A man who is able to identify and manage his anger so that it helps him learn, grow, and treat himself and his family better.
6. A man who is able to identify and manage his sadness so it doesn’t affect him and others negatively and helps him learn more about himself and move in a positive direction.
7. A teacher who understands students’ emotions and provides support and comfort.
8. A person in a leadership position who is comfortable with emotions and avoids doing things to hurt others.
9. A father who encourages his son to experience emotions without getting in the way or trying to stifle certain ones.
10. Any person who is able to identify and name the emotion being experienced and use it to do positive things.
11. An individual who is able to be there for someone else when the other person is experiencing an emotion.
12. A person who doesn’t let negative emotions affect how they treat others.
13. An individual who doesn’t live in fear, sadness, or anger because they have learned how to identify, feel, and deal with emotions.
14. A person who has worked through a difficult emotional history and emerged stronger and healthier.
15. An individual who understands that emotions are normal.
16. A person who uses emotions to live a balanced, happy life.
17. An individual who feels good inside and knows what to do when negative emotions arise.
18. A person who gets along well with others.

The key to being emotionally intelligent is to build self-awareness by consciously identifying what you’re feeling deep inside and then using the emotion in a positive way, whether it’s to learn or do something beneficial.

Practicing emotional intelligence takes time and effort but, when you do it, you’ll live a much happier life. What will you do to develop self-awareness and emotional intelligence?

Cheers,

Guy

People who lack self-awareness aren’t emotionally intelligent because they’re not willing or able to look deep inside themselves and keep working on being in touch with who they are and feeling things openly and constructively.

Increasing self-awareness and developing emotional intelligence doesn’t just happen, it takes a lot of deliberate effort. If you’re like the vast majority of people, you were raised or currently function in an environment that actively distorts, discourages, ignores, fears, or mocks emotions. That leaves you with less than ideal tools to deal with your own and other people’s emotions.

There’s a lot of drama going on but nobody knows how to make things better. Luckily, there’s something you can do about it. Here are some practical ideas on how to be emotionally intelligent:

• Learn to name the four main emotions: happiness, anger, sadness, and fear.
• Learn how to accurately identify these feelings when they are going on inside you.
• Learn how to deal with or manage the emotions you’re feeling in a positive way.
• Learn how to name the emotions other people are having and deal with or manage them in a positive way.
• Learn how to use your emotions to live a happy, balanced life.

So, how do you learn these things? You practice them. For example: The next time you feel angry about something, stop and take five deep breaths, then take five minutes to simply feel what’s going on inside your body; don’t react or take action in any way, just feel what’s going on inside. Do this each time you feel the anger. Over time, you’ll become adept at feeling the emotion instead of reacting unconsciously to it. Once you’ve learned how to experience the emotion without falling apart, you can move on to taking action in a positive way.

The key to being emotionally intelligent is to be able to feel what’s going on inside you and use it positively, as well as being comfortable with other people’s emotions. When you possess emotional intelligence, you’re no longer simply reacting to what’s going on within and around you, you’re deliberately and wisely dealing with and managing the situation.

What will you do to increase your self-awareness and be emotionally intelligent?

Cheers,

Guy