Stubborn Leaders Lack Self-Awareness - On Developing Self-Awareness and Being Self-Aware

Stubborn Leaders Lack Self-Awareness

Leaders who lack self-awareness sometimes think that being stubborn is the same as being right about something. They hang on to their position no matter what happens because they just don’t see any other option. There’s nothing terribly wrong with this behavior but it does affect the leader and team involved; usually in less than positive ways. Here’s a couple of things to think about if you know someone who is amazingly stubborn:

Being Stubborn is a Defense Mechanism

People who are stubborn hang on to their beliefs at all costs because they feel they are defending something very important. Even if the issue doesn’t seem important to others, it is to them.  People in this situation frequently believe that if they give up their position, something terrible will happen.

Being Stubborn is a Dead End Street

Once someone decides to be stubborn they have painted themselves into a corner because they severely limit any options to fix anything. They hang onto their point of view no matter what and literally can’t explore other options because they don’t allow for any.

What is Right?

Stubborn people frequently think they are right but, if you think about it, what’s right and what’s wrong? We can usually measure what’s right by whether the results of a given behavior leads to positive outcomes. Yet most stubborn behavior just leads to entrenchment. I’m not certain most people would say that being stuck is the same as being right or happy.

So What Can We Do?

Stubbornness can be a daunting challenge. Some people are so stubborn that they will live a miserable life just to prove their point. The only real way to alleviate stubbornness to practice self-awareness and get help to interrupt the behavior patterns and beliefs that led to the current situation. There’s not much other people can do except make themselves available to talk with the person and set limits and boundaries.

Being stubborn rarely leads to positive results and it isn’t very effective at creating inspiring workplaces. The good news is that the cycle can be interrupted by taking a good look at oneself and slightly shifting the behaviors that lead to being stubborn. The result?  Greater happiness and more successful leaders.

What will you do to develop self-awareness and avoid being a stubborn leader?

Cheers,

Guy

Self-Awareness and the Secret to Success in Life - On Developing Self-Awareness and Being Self-Aware

Self-Awareness and the Secret to Success in Life

The secret to success is that there’s no big mystery to it, all you have to do is increase your self-awareness and do three basic things: follow your dreams, have a plan, and take action. These are the hidden secrets that influence the people who are self-aware and lead happy and fulfilled lives. As you actively work on these vital steps you will find yourself unraveling the mysteries of your own success.

1. The first secret is following your dreams. At the very core of every person who reaches unlimited success is a powerful connection with his or her dreams. We can spend a lot of time making huge sums of money or acquiring influence and status but it can leave us empty at the end of the day. The one thing that makes people feel consistently successful is the ability to do what they want in life, something that speaks to them on a very deep level. When you begin pursuing your most personal desires you start the process of validating yourself. This relationship is far more important than the accumulation of wealth and status. It relates to your natural talents and the amazing abilities you were born with. When you are functioning from your innermost dreams you are connecting with something bigger than any obstacle you could ever encounter. You suddenly open up the doors of opportunity because you are moving in the direction you were put on this earth to follow. Suddenly people will recognize you for your gifts and talents rather than based on the stuff you merely do to get by.

2. The second secret is taking action. Every single endeavor in human history required that someone take some kind of action. Nothing ever happens on purpose unless someone actually does something. While this may seem like a simple concept, millions upon millions of people wake up every morning and do nothing to advance their goals and dreams in any sort of organized manner. They get up and work hard and dream a lot about how things might be but they never take that first deliberate step toward their dreams. It may sound basic, but all it takes to move in any direction you want is your commitment to actually do something instead of just thinking about it. You unlock an amazing amount of power when you move from simply thinking or hoping something will happen to taking action in some way. Taking action means doing something that proves you are moving toward your objectives.

3. The third secret is having a plan. We all need a way to keep our momentum going when we are pursuing our dreams. There is a certain power to writing things down and committing to follow them that is absent when the ideas are simply bouncing around in our head. A coherent plan helps us keep moving and increases the likelihood that we will reach our goals. Make sure you create a document that is brief, clear and to the point. Keep things simple and remember to only include a manageable amount of tasks. Also keep in mind that you don’t have to do everything at once, one specific task at a time is enough. Design your plan so that you fully complete one part of it before moving on to the next. Take time to celebrate when you finish one part and then proceed confidently to the next. When you have a coach for what you are going to do the world suddenly becomes less scary because you have an actual series of steps you can follow.

The powerful secret of success is that you can be successful if you have the self-awareness to follow your dreams, formulate a plan, and take action. When you follow these basic steps you open up the door to opportunities you never knew existed and weren’t available to you until you decided to start the process. Achieving your dreams requires conscious thought, deliberate action and consistent practice. The secret is that you get to decide when you start courageously moving toward success.

What will you do to develop self-awareness and be successful in a way that is meaningful to you?

Cheers,

Guy

How to Build Self-Awareness - On Developing Self-Awareness and Being Self-Aware

How to Build Self-Awareness

Here are some ideas on how to build self-awareness:

  • Decide to get to know yourself at a deeper level.
  • Let go of thoughts and behaviors in your past that haven’t led to positive results.
  • Think of an area of your life you’d like to improve.
  • Brainstorm ideas of how to work on that area.
  • Pick one of your brainstorm items and start working on it.
  • Monitor your progress as you go along.
  • Repeat the process.

A lot of people think that self-awareness is something you acquire by chance or as you age, but it really requires recognizing and interrupting negative patterns in your life and consciously moving in a different direction. What will you do to build self-awareness?

Cheers,

Guy

Self-Awareness and Living Your Dream Life - On Developing Self-Awareness and Being Self-Aware

Self-Awareness and Living Your Dream Life

Did you know you can start living your dream life today? You don’t have to settle for whatever comes your way when you choose to use self-awareness to look deep inside yourself and identify what your passion is in life. Here are some questions you can ask yourself to start making your dreams come true:

  • What are my innate talents and abilities?
  • What is one thing that brings me great joy in life and reflects who I am deep inside?
  • What is the thing I love doing so much that time flies by?
  • If I could choose any one thing to do in life, what would it be?
  • What ideas do I have to incorporate more of this thing into my life?
  • What single action am I willing to take today to move in the direction of my dreams?

Think about questions like these to clarify what you really want to do and how you’ll start the process. Living your dream life means building self-awareness about who you are and what path you want to take. Once you understand yourself well you’ll be able to incorporate more and more of what you love into your life.

There will be pitfalls along the way and it will take time and effort to create your dream situation but, if  you’re willing to keep looking at yourself and taking small steps, you’ll live much more authentically. Remember that you don’t have to make everything happen at once, just keep moving forward consciously.

What will you do to develop self-awareness and start living your dream life?

Cheers,

Guy

Self-Awareness and Increasing the Love in Your Life - On Developing Self-Awareness and Being Self-Aware

Self-Awareness and Increasing the Love in Your Life

When you possess self-awareness, you deeply understand and are able to positively manage your emotions, thoughts, and behaviors. This sense of well-being allows you to let more love into you life, as in loving yourself and others.

Love is a wonderful part of self-awareness. Imagine your life filled with many kinds of love including:

  • Love for yourself.
  • Love for and from others.
  • Love for your career.
  • Love for the planet and all its creatures.
  • Love for life.

Replacing the feelings of fear and anger in your life with love allows you to feel great about yourself and others. Your life moves in entirely different ways, wonderful opportunities and experiences open up to you, full of joy and fulfillment. Love can literally change your life if you let it in. What will you do to develop self-awareness and invite love into your life?

Cheers,

Guy

Self-Awareness Helps You Succeed More - On Developing Self-Awareness and Being Self-Aware

Self-Awareness Helps You Succeed More

Self-awareness means that you understand how your feelings, thoughts, and behaviors impact your life. Over many years of helping individuals overcome challenges in their lives, I’ve found it striking how many things people unconsciously think and do that get in the way of their own success, for example:

  • They believe things about themselves and others that lead in an unfavorable direction.
  • They treat themselves and others poorly.
  • They base their entire lives on their inner hurts.
  • They don’t pursue their dreams.
  • They settle for whatever comes their way.
  • They’re afraid of feeling their emotions.
  • They make things harder rather than easier.

I often wonder what would happen if they would shift these types of beliefs and behaviors in a self-aware, conscious, positive direction, as in:

  • Believing in things that are beneficial to themselves and others.
  • Treating themselves and others well.
  • Basing their lives on their hopes, talents, and abilities.
  • Pursuing their dreams.
  • Taking action each day to live actively and deliberately.
  • Feeling their feelings and using them to learn and grow positively.
  • Thinking and behaving in ways that make things easier.

We each get to choose how we experience the world. We can think and behave as if it’s a dangerous, horrible, hopeless place or one that is full of goodness and opportunities. One of the reasons I love consulting for people who value self-awareness is that they live consciously and are willing to look deep inside for what will help them flourish.

What will you do to develop self-awareness and succeed more?

Cheers,

Guy

Self-Aware People Ask for Help - On Developing Self-Awareness and Being Self-Aware

Self-Aware People Ask for Help

When I help people figure out what they want out of life they often ask me why some people achieve their goals and some don’t. The answer is that successful people have the self-awareness to ask for outside help so that they can learn new ways of doing things that break the patterns they’ve established. As a self-awareness consultant, I am familiar with people’s power to change their lives dramatically with the help of someone supportive helping them reach their goals.

It’s great to have friends and family but there is an additional valuable place for having someone helping us who does not know us. It introduces an objectivity and clarity we can’t get from people who know us. Some people look for help from a therapist, for others a consultant is a great option, for others a class or group of some kind helps them acquire new insight. The people who most succeed at changing things in their lives are those who actively build self-awareness and seek outside support that opens their minds to new possibilities.

An outside, supportive person can help us see things from a more neutral point of view and can identify things that people who know us don’t see. If we are stuck in the same rut it’s often refreshing to just have a neutral, outside perspective that gives us clear feedback. Try it sometime: think of something you want to work on in your life and then reach out to an outside helper who can help you get where you want to go. The only thing you have to lose are the negative things you endure now.

What will you do to develop self-awareness and ask for help?

Cheers,

Guy

The Self-Awareness Guy