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Self-Awareness Helps You Stop Reacting to Everything - On Developing Self-Awareness and Being Self-Aware

Self-Awareness Helps You Stop Reacting to Everything

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Many people who lack self-awareness spend their lives reacting to perceived slights and conflicts. They have learned somewhere that the way you deal with anything is to jump into reactive mode and get mad at people. You’ve probably met someone like this: They see someone across the room and immediately assume that that person is talking about them, so they jump into a rage, get sad or shut down.

Reacting based on assumptions or our inner dialogue is one of the major behaviors that keeps people from connecting with one another. If we spend our time assuming that someone is trying to hurt us we live a very specific kind of life that is based on ongoing hurt and conflict. People live this way for a variety of reasons but mainly because they learned it at a young age and don’t know any other way of doing things, that and a lack of self-awareness. The good news is that you get to choose what kind of life you live starting right now. Here are some tips so that you can move from reactive to calm:

1. Assume people aren’t talking about you.
2. Assume that people aren’t trying to hurt you.
3. Live a life that helps you bring joy to others.
4. Seek professional help to work through why you react to others.
5. Learn to identify the feelings that come up inside you and calm them down.
6. Try not to pre-judge people’s motivations.
7. Have an alternate plan for how you will react positively.
8. Listen to people until they are finished talking; then act.
9. Practice patience.
10. Focus first on building your self-awareness and growing as a person.

There’s nothing wrong with experiencing emotions unless they limit our ability to interact positively with others. Try working on the steps we’ve mentioned and you’ll be on your way to seeing the world in a different light. What will you do to develop self-awareness and stop reacting to everything?

Cheers,

Guy

Self-Awareness Means You Can Make Adjustments - On Developing Self-Awareness and Being Self-Aware

Self-Awareness Means You Can Make Adjustments

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People who are self-aware understand that not everything goes as planned all the time. A crucial part of self-awareness is the ability to make adjustments. Take the time to consider what’s working and what needs to change in your life so you can get the results you want. Don’t be afraid to make changes to your routine that will help you move forward. Here are some examples of the kind of adjustments you might make:

  • Let go of what doesn’t work.
  • Heal the hurts from your past.
  • Invite people into your life who build you up.
  • Do things that help you learn more about yourself.
  • See a therapist or coach.
  • Do something different than what you do now.
  • Pursue your dreams.
  • Take the time to figure out who you are deep inside.
  • Live with courage.
  • Welcome change into your life.

Cheers,

Guy

Self-Awareness and Saying No - On Developing Self-Awareness and Being Self-Aware

Self-Awareness and Saying No

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An important part of self-awareness is allowing yourself not to do everything that people ask you to do. A lot of well-meaning individuals expend a great deal of energy doing things for others rather than remaining focused on their own goals. You get to decide whether you live your own life or someone else’s. Saying no doesn’t mean being rude, it’s just letting people know what your limits and boundaries are.

When you learn how to say no, you allow yourself to focus your energy on doing what you want to do. You can take action to make your own dreams come true. You also get rid of the inner discomfort that comes from doing things you really don’t want to do.

You’re a valuable person who deserves to follow your own path in life. Your needs matter. When you say no, you are putting yourself first and creating the space for you to do things that bring you joy. What will you do to develop self-awareness and say no more often?

Cheers,

Guy

Self-Esteem Building with a Self-Awareness Consultant - On Developing Self-Awareness and Being Self-Aware

Self-Esteem Building with a Self-Awareness Consultant

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A self-awareness consultant can help you build your self-esteem by helping you connect with who you really are and discover your strengths and talents. We are all born with an amazing range of skills and interests. I always recommend that people connect with what they really want to do.

  • If you love art, pursue art.
  • If you love business, start a business.
  • If you love sports, play sports.

For any dream you have there is a practical way you can get started. If you love writing you can do any number of things today to start following your dream. The only thing stopping you is you.

A self-awareness consultant can help you get unstuck and tap into the wonderful talents you possess. I work with people just like you so that you can figure out what you want out of life and develop a plan to achieve it.

A self-awareness consultant is a person who believes in you, listens to you and supports your dreams and ambitions. I love helping people live the lives they want and experience possibilities. I can’t think of anything more rewarding that watching someone experience the joy that comes from living the life they want to live.

Cheers,

Guy

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Self-Awareness and Keeping New Year's Resolutions - On Developing Self-Awareness and Being Self-Aware

Self-Awareness and Keeping New Year’s Resolutions

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Many people who lack self-awareness make resolutions at the beginning of the new year but have difficulty keeping up the momentum and enthusiasm they initially experience. So how can you make sure you fulfill your new year’s resolutions? Here are some helpful tips to get you started:

1. Pick a manageable goal. You can always pick another if you achieve one.
2. Pick only one thing you want to change. Don’t try to do everything at once.
3. Pick a goal that you are very likely to follow through on. This leads to success.
4. Find an outside person to help you reinforce your goal.
5. Develop a plan and stick to it.
6. Take one step then keep walking.
7. Practice, practice, practice. The act of doing things over time creates change.

The trick to keeping resolutions is to make them manageable and take action each day to make them a reality. Pick any goal you wish and then work on making it come true by doing one small thing each day.

What will you do to develop self-awareness and keep your new year’s resolutions?

Cheers,

Guy

You Decide What Self-Awareness Is - On Developing Self-Awareness and Being Self-Aware

You Decide What Self-Awareness Is

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Self-awareness is whatever you decide you want it to be based on what’s important to you and how you want to grow. It’s often the process of identifying areas in your life that you want to improve and taking action to make things happen. Self-awareness is most challenging when you’re uncomfortable in some way and genuinely motivated to change your thoughts or behaviors. You have to be ready to address the issue and willing to work on it until you generate positive results.

It’s advisable to approach self-awareness as an ongoing process rather than a quick fix. Deeper change requires long-term commitment and effort but it doesn’t have to be complicated. All you have to do is be willing to take a look at yourself, warts and all. The process of getting to know who you really are is what eventually leads to happiness and fulfillment. A great way to get the process started is to picture what your ideal life would be and pursue one small thing each day to achieve your dreams. If you have emotions, thoughts, or behaviors that get in the way, be willing to examine them and work on shifting them in a positive direction. Self-awareness isn’t something that occurs overnight, it’s a journey of self-discovery where you make all the decisions about where you want to go.

Cheers,

Guy

Self-Awareness and Dating Good People - On Developing Self-Awareness and Being Self-Aware

Self-Awareness and Dating Good People

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When I consult for clients I often get questions about finding great men or women to date. People who lack self-awareness often find themselves dating the same general type of person over and over and getting the same results. The good news is that you don’t have to settle, you have an amazing ability to move your dating life in any direction you choose by following some basic steps. Here are a few examples:

1. Build up your self-awareness and find out who you are before you date. This will give you a better idea and more self-esteem to pick more healthy people to date.

2. Understand that people who date you should be supportive, kind, helpful, attentive and should always make you feel that who you are as a person is important.

3. Excitement doesn’t always equal a good person to date. Danger and mystery can be enticing but often turn into very large problems that hurt you.

4. Nobody you date, under any circumstance, should take away your self-esteem or put down your self-awareness.

5. You should never give up your identity to please or accommodate someone you’re dating.

6. You benefit from learning to live alone first and then incorporating someone else into your life. The healthier you are, the better choices you’ll make in the dating arena.

Try considering these points as you date people. Dating should be fun and it ideally lifts you up and makes you feel great. Take some time to think about who you are as a person and work hard on making yourself the best person possible. Remember that vibrant, healthy people see creeps coming down the road and steer clear.

What will you do to develop self-awareness and date good people?

Cheers,

Guy

The Self-Awareness Guy