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Increasing Self-Awareness Helps You Build Positive Relationships - On Developing Self-Awareness and Being Self-Aware

Increasing Self-Awareness Helps You Build Positive Relationships

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Increasing self-awareness helps you build positive relationships with others and make decisions that help you treat yourself well and move your life in a beneficial direction. Try asking yourself some questions to decide what kind of relationships you want in your life, such as:

  • What kind of person do I want to be with?
  • How do I want them to treat me?
  • What kind of relationship do I want?
  • What am I doing to have a great relationship with myself without a significant other in the picture?
  • What can I do to make sure I take care of myself and move in a positive direction?
  • How do I define love or friendship?
  • What things am I doing to build up my self-awareness so I am able to invite positive people into my life?

Take some time to think about questions like these. After a while you’ll have a clearer idea of what kind of relationships are best for you. They key is to know yourself and be healthy enough to attract positive people into your life. It all starts with you.

What will you do to develop self-awareness and build positive relationships?

Cheers,

Guy

Broken People Lack Self-Awareness - On Developing Self-Awareness and Being Self-Aware

Broken People Lack Self-Awareness

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Broken people lack self-awareness and live based on their unresolved hurts instead of striving to increase their self-awareness and become more balanced and healthy. Broken people don’t like themselves, which means they do things like:

  • Treat themselves and others poorly.
  • Act out of self-interest.
  • Lack empathy.
  • Hurt others to get what they want.
  • Never resolve their own issues.
  • Think and behave in profoundly fearful and negative ways.
  • Don’t understand their own thoughts and behaviors.
  • Thrive on conflict.
  • Build superficial or negative relationships.
  • Have to be on top of others.

It’s not that people like this are intrinsically evil, it’s just that they don’t have the self-awareness to realize there are other options in the world, like healing their inner hurts and traumas and moving in a healthier, more positive direction.

Individuals who feel great about themselves treat others well and make the world a better place for as many people as possible. They act out of compassion and kindness and help others grow and succeed. They value self-awareness and constantly work on becoming healthy and whole.

What will you do to develop self-awareness and avoid being a broken person?

Cheers,

Guy

Self-Awareness and Building Confidence - On Developing Self-Awareness and Being Self-Aware

Self-Awareness and Building Confidence

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People who lack self-awareness often ask me how to increase their confidence. It’s been my experience that people build their confidence by doing things they enjoy and experiencing both success and failure. The common denominator is that confident people tend to be those who confront the challenges in their lives and learn from the outcomes.

Eleanor Roosevelt said:

“You gain strength, courage, and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. You must do the thing which you think you cannot do.”

Taking deliberate and conscious action to increase self-awareness and doing things purposefully to work toward some goal will help you become a confident person. We all have an incredible ability to take on any challenge in our lives, we just have to be willing to actually do something to make things happen.

Try taking on a challenge today and keep doing it until you are an expert. Put one foot in front of the other and keep walking. Then take on another challenge and keep going. In time you’ll wonder why you ever lacked confidence at all.

What will you do to develop self-awareness and build up your confidence?

Cheers,

Guy

Self-Awareness and Attachment to Outcomes - On Developing Self-Awareness and Being Self-Aware

Self-Awareness and Attachment to Outcomes

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A lot of personal development experts talk about doing anything you want in life. You can move in the direction of your dreams at any time you want but many people lose motivation when they feel like they aren’t getting exactly what they wanted. The key to success is to gradually build your  self-awareness without focusing on a specific outcome. You never know what you’ll discover along the way.

Cheers,

Guy

10 Tips to Lead with Increased Self-Awareness - On Developing Self-Awareness and Being Self-Aware

10 Tips to Lead with Increased Self-Awareness

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I consult for a wide range of leaders and organizations and I’m often surprised by the number of individuals who lack self-awareness and lead as if they’ve never considered someone else’s point of view. Some even get into the same types of arguments and interactions that they experienced in their families growing up, which doesn’t tend to lead to amazing results.

Have you ever worked with someone who tried to resolve every problem the same way and ended up fixing nothing and making everyone unhappy? It happens all the time and we call that type of leader a bad boss. Here are some practical things you can do to increase self-awareness and make your leadership skills even stronger:

  1. Figure out and define what you do well and do those things in the workplace.
  2. Identify areas where you could use some help and find people to help you.
  3. Ask your employees where you need some help and listen to their advice.
  4. Be willing to ask for help rather than pretend you know everything.
  5. Be open to information, ideas and perspectives other than your own.
  6. Be willing to change your behavior patterns to improve your workplace.
  7. Admit mistakes rather than covering stuff up to avoid losing face.
  8. Accept change and use it as a catalyst to do new and exciting things.
  9. Delegate and give people the opportunity to grow.
  10. Practice kind behaviors toward everyone at work.

If you practice all ten of these things you already understand what kind of workplace it creates: An environment where employees actually like you and are willing to do more and better work because they’re not miserable. Behaving positively in the workplace leads to better results for you and everyone else.

What will you do to develop self-awareness and lead more effectively?

Cheers,

Guy

Signs of Self-Awareness - On Developing Self-Awareness and Being Self-Aware

Signs of Self-Awareness

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I’m often asked whether one can tell when someone has self-awareness. When you’re working on understanding yourself well you might be doing some of the following things:

  • Becoming the most effective you possible.
  • Functioning well in life.
  • Achieving what you want.
  • Finding happiness and balance.
  • Letting go of negative behaviors.
  • Being comfortable with who you are.
  • Resolving personal issues.
  • Enjoying your career.
  • Loving yourself and others.
  • Living consciously.
  • Being proactive rather than reactive.

Many people let life happen to them because they feel they can’t change or develop in any way. The good news is that anyone can move in any direction as long as he or she is willing to put in the effort to make things happen. You decide what happens in your life and whether you believe in using self-awareness as a tool to help you grow and succeed.

Cheers,

Guy

Self-Awareness and Managing Emotions - On Developing Self-Awareness and Being Self-Aware

Self-Awareness and Managing Emotions

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Need help managing emotions? You’re not alone. It can be difficult to deal with your own emotions, or other people’s, and it can deeply affect your and their quality of life. Thankfully, increasing self-awareness helps you manage emotions because, when you understand yourself and others better, you’re able to more effectively deal with what you and they are feeling.

Managing emotions begins with building up your self-awareness in order to increase your emotional intelligence. Here are some tips to help you get started:

  • There are four basic emotions: Happiness, Anger, Sadness, and Fear. Learn how to identify each of these when they are happening inside you. Ask yourself, “What is this feeling?” and pick one of the four. Keep practicing until you get good at recognizing what you’re feeling.
  • Once you know what emotion you’re experiencing, you can begin managing or dealing with it. To do this, take five deep breaths and give yourself five minutes to just feel the emotion. It may be difficult to do this at first but, over time, you’ll become more comfortable with any emotion that arises, even the unpleasant ones that you’ve been trying to avoid.
  • Realize that emotions are a normal part of life and you can use them to improve yourself. There are no bad emotions, each one is simply telling you what’s going on inside. When you stop seeing emotions as threats, you can act on them in a calm and balanced way. For example: If you’re scared about a new change in your life, take five deep breaths and five minutes to feel the emotion. Once you’ve done that calmly, take some time to plan a positive path forward. Think of one step you can take to improve your situation and, when you’re done with that one, try another.
  • Keep practicing. Nobody is great at managing their emotions the first time they try. It takes a lot of conscious effort to get to the point where you are able to feel your emotions and use them in a positive way. Don’t give up, if you keep working on experiencing your emotions, you’ll eventually become an expert at it.

Managing emotions is simply the act of recognizing what’s going on inside you, making sure not to react negatively, and then finding positive steps you can take to move your life forward. Anyone can do it, but it requires work and commitment.

What will you do to develop self-awareness and manage your emotions?

Cheers,

Guy

The Self-Awareness Guy