Leadership Self-Awareness Archives – The Self-Awareness Guy

Developing Self-Awareness to Be an Effective Leader

March 11, 2025 - The Self-Awareness Guy - Leave a Comment

When I consult with organizations to help them develop self-awareness, employees often describe a leadership style that is pervasive in many workplaces: It usually consists of a leader who is a good person, works really hard and means well but is constantly overwhelmed and reacting to events. This creates a leadership dynamic where the leader is in survival mode and really doesn’t have the time or perspective to lead in any other way. Working frantically isn’t the same as actually being productive. Very often, these decent and caring individuals end up being the dreaded bad boss or ineffective leader. It’s not because they’re horrible people, they just lack self-awareness and don’t know any other way of doing things.

When it comes to leadership, I think in terms of increasing self-awareness in order to practice positive behaviors that generate beneficial results. When we do positive things it tends to create more positive results. If we choose to focus on the negative we get different outcomes. To begin evaluating whether you’re an effective leader see if you recognize the following behaviors:

1. Always checking up on employees.
2. Constantly asking employees for updates.
3. Feeling rushed or pressured.
4. Feeling out of control if things aren’t done a certain way.
5. Running from one fire to another.
6. Constantly reacting to events instead of planning beforehand.
7. Living with constant stress or tension.
8. Telling employees what to do instead of listening.
9. Not really happy at work.
10. Needing to dominate others.

Do you do any of these things? It’s not horrible if you do, it will just create a certain kind of workplace dynamic than if you were to refocus and practice the following self-aware alternatives:

1. Lets employees do their work independently.
2. Trusts employees to keep him up to date.
3. Feels calm and balanced even under pressure.
4. Lets people do things in ways that make sense to them.
5. Doesn’t create or add to the fire.
6. Plans proactively to minimize emergencies.
7. Relaxes at work.
8. Listens to employees and values outside input.
9. Happy at work.
10. Doesn’t need to dominate others.

When you look at these two lists which one sounds more like you? Effective leaders tend to be more like the second list and enjoy happier work lives and fewer heart attacks. There’s no secret to behaving this way in the workplace. All it takes is letting go of the old way of doing things and replacing it with more productive behaviors. How will you start developing self-awareness and being a more effective leader?

Cheers,

Guy

Key Team Building Questions Self-Aware Leaders Ask Themselves

February 9, 2025 - The Self-Awareness Guy

Self-aware leaders are comfortable with themselves and are always asking themselves questions about how they’re doing and how they might improve, including on issues like team building.

The standard approach to team building helps people bond casually but often neglects the deeper things that bring people together. As a leader all you have to do is look deep inside yourself and determine whether you’re ready to build great teams. Here are some key questions you can ask yourself to improve the results you get from team building.

Empathy

Do people deeply understand other people’s points of view and are they able to empathize with others?

Listening

Do people really listen to each other and let the other person say whatever is in his or her mind? Do they do it without interruptions, sarcasm, punishment, jokes or advice-giving?

Long-Term Commitment

Is your organization firmly committed to helping people build stronger teams long-term? Is there a culture of team building from the top down?

Deeper Connection

Do people interact with each other on a deeper level? Do they move past superficial conversation to really getting to know each other?

Mutual Support

Are people there for each other no matter what? Do they consistently help each other because they genuinely care?

Think about how your team building philosophy meshes with the ideas we’ve talked about. Team building can yield much greater results for your organization if you move beyond short-term efforts and shift to approaches that are aimed at the values, culture and functioning of the organization. What will you do to develop self-awareness and promote team building in your company?

Cheers,

Guy

Self-Aware Leadership and the Compassionate Workplace

February 9, 2025 - The Self-Awareness Guy

A lot of leaders think that it’s impossible, or impractical, to behave with compassion in the workplace. Self-aware leaders understand that building a compassionate workplace is possible. You can design any type of workplace you wish, from the harshly autocratic to the kind and compassionate.

You can consciously promote compassion in the workplace by doing things like:

Behaving with kindness.
Treating people like human beings.
Supporting flexible work hours.
Providing benefits.
Allowing people to grow.
Allowing employees to think for themselves.
Encouraging diversity and inclusion.
Listening to people’s ideas and concerns.
Giving people responsibility.
Understanding that people have lives outside work.

I can hear the steam coming out of some leaders’ ears as they struggle with the idea that you can actually create a compassionate workplace and get stuff done. For too long, the norm has been to build workplaces that subjugate and control people instead of helping them grow and succeed. You can be the one to use self-awareness to break that cycle, especially if you’re in a leadership position.

What will you do to increase self-awareness and promote compassion in your workplace?

Cheers,

Guy

Self-Aware Leaders Help Their Employees Succeed Rather Than Bossing Them Around

January 30, 2025 - The Self-Awareness Guy

A lot of leaders who lack self-awareness are great at bossing their employees around but less adept at helping them succeed. Self-aware leaders understand that helping is different from directing because it focuses on what you can do to support your employees so they can thrive and excel instead of forcing them to complete tasks. The standard leadership model is like sports coaching, where you talk at people and push them to do something, whether they want to or not, rather than finding ways to have them motivate and educate themselves from within.

Helping is a valuable tool to improve staff morale, increase productivity, build stronger teams and promote excellent workplace communication. You can delegate more effectively and give your staff the opportunity to demonstrate what they can do. Here are some tips you can use to begin being more self-aware and helping instead of giving orders:

Offer educational opportunities.
Praise the things they do well.
Support employee skills and talents.
Don’t discipline, help people learn from their experiences.
Let employees have independence.
Give employees decision-making ability.
Use employees’ ideas.
Allow various points of view and approaches.
Brainstorm.
Listen to employees.
Problem-solve collaboratively when appropriate.
Help employees find their own solutions.
Direct less.
Meet regularly to listen to employee feedback.
Help people keep growing and advancing.

Self-aware leaders know that, when their employees feel their skills and abilities are being recognized and utilized, the organization benefits. By helping instead of bossing, you get to create a happy workplace environment which, in turn, reduces turnover, hiring costs, morale problems and other glitches.

Helping is an ongoing process that encourages employees to learn and grow. When you help someone, you move from directing to encouraging them to succeed based on their own interests, talents, and abilities. What will you do to increase self-awareness, boss less, and help more?

Cheers,

Guy

Self-Awareness, Leadership, and Reducing Stress at Work

December 31, 2024 - The Self-Awareness Guy

Leaders who possess self-awareness are able to reduce stress at work because they understand how their emotions, thoughts, and behaviors can lead to a more calm, positive mindset.

Many leaders run around in a perpetual state of stress but did you know you can do some basic things to interrupt this pattern? Being stressed is a natural reaction if you’re being chased by a lion but can cause all kinds of problems if you are feeling it all the time in your workplace. Think of the following ideas to reduce your stress at work.

Do things you love for a living. This will help you avoid the stress from doing a job you hate.
Surround yourself with supportive people. Make sure that you interact with people who respect you for who you are.
Limit the overwhelm. You don’t have to take on everything at once. Do one thing well and move on to the next.
Take time to take care of yourself. Take time each day to take a walk or talk with a supportive friend.
Focus on the positive. Don’t worry so much about the stuff you can’t control or that goes wrong. Think about the things that are going well.

Try these ideas to help balance your work life. You’ll be thankful you started thinking this way when you feel more relaxed and less stressed out. What will you do to use your self-awareness to reduce the stress you feel at work?

Cheers,

Guy

Self-Aware Leaders Practice Effective Communication

December 31, 2024 - The Self-Awareness Guy

Self-aware leaders practice effective communication because they’re aware of how their emotions, thoughts, and actions affect their ability to interact with others.

Your communication style tells other people a lot about your professionalism and what they can expect when they deal with you. A theme that frequently arises when I train leaders is how to communicate in a manner that invites your employees to collaborate with you and work for you. The following tips will help you put your best foot forward and communicate confidently.

Listen actively. It’s amazing what you learn when you are not talking.
Say it briefly. Go with the approach that less is more in communication.
Keep it professional. Effective communication is not the appropriate time to vent about personal problems or delve into people’s private lives.
Keep your temper in check. If you fly off the handle it not only shuts down communication but also reduces the likelihood that the other company will give you an opportunity in the future.
Don’t get defensive. Remind yourself that communication glitches aren’t a personal slight against you, they are just part of regular interactions.
Practice excellent conflict resolution skills. Brainstorm with the other person to get some ideas on how to deal with the issue at hand and agree on a solution that works for both of you.
Plan ahead. Develop a communication strategy and follow it to eliminate guesswork.

Your employees and colleagues evaluate you much in the same way your clients do. How you communicate says a lot to the outside world about your level of self-awareness and the way you do things. Keep these tips in mind as you interact with other people and you’ll be on your way to increasing your success exponentially. What will you do to develop your self-awareness and be a self-aware leader who practices effective communication?

Cheers,

Guy

Self-Awareness, Leadership, and Positive Thinking

December 21, 2024 - The Self-Awareness Guy

Self-awareness, leadership, and successful thinking are interlinked because leaders who understand their strengths and areas for improvement are better able to lead effectively.

Ever work for a leader who always sees the glass as half empty? What was it like? As a leader, how you wake up in the morning can make a big difference on how successful your day, your week or your entire work life is. Think about how your work day will go if you think thoughts like these:

Another day another dollar.
I hate my work.
I don’t want to get out of bed.
I hate my job.
I don’t feel like doing anything new.
I lost my slippers.
I wish those birds would shut up.
I can’t deal with my employees.
I won’t get any clients.

You might be better off staying in bed if you think these thoughts because they are going to lead you toward stagnation or lack of motivation and will do the same for your workplace. Think about what kind of results you might get if you increased your self-awareness and consciously thought the following:

I’m going to make my work meaningful.
I’m looking forward to the people I’ll meet today.
I’ve designed work activities I enjoy.
It’s going to be a great day.
I love the sound of birds chirping.
Nothing can stop me today.
My workplace is full of opportunities.
I love the work I do.

It may feel a little different at first, but thinking in a positive way actually leads you in a positive direction. If you think you’re going to fail, you will, if you envision success you’re more likely to create those results. How you think about your workplace will deeply affect the way your career unfolds.

How will you develop self-awareness and practice successful thinking?

Cheers,

Guy